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Goodness Thrives… SheVibe.com

Goodness Thrives… SheVibe.com

I currently work in the tiny industry of pleasure products. In the past, I have worked in the emergency room so when people in the pleasure product industry start taking themselves too seriously I remind myself (and sometimes them) that we sell sex toys. We sell […]

Goodness Thrives… Lilly

Goodness Thrives… Lilly

We don’t know each other very well. We’ve shared some kind words online and some valued time together at sexuality conferences. But one day, while I was in the midst of cancer treatment, Lilly sent me a message and asked if I would consider doing […]

Valentine’s Day Gift Guide / PeepShowToys.com

Valentine’s Day Gift Guide / PeepShowToys.com

Splurging on something luscious and sexy can be a great pick-me-up. Why? When you spend money on some element of our lives it elevates the importance and drives us to be more committed. If your sex life (with yourself or a partner) has been lagging, I suggest spoiling yourself and/or your partner with these elegant items from Peepshow Toys.

This beautifully curved, medical grade, stainless steel Njoy Pure Wand wand is 1.5 pounds of pure pleasure. The weight forces your muscles to engage which in turn drives bigger, more badass orgasms ($110 at PeepshowToys.com, qualifies for free US shipping)

It’s not very expensive but it plays like a pricey item. This Blown Basic Curve Glass Dildo is cool to the touch, warms with your body, and undeniably sleek and sexy to the touch. ($36 at PeepshowToys.com)

Of all the male pleasure products on the market, the Cobra Libre II ($129.99) by Fun Factory is the one my phantom penis wants to experience the most. Why? feedback from dudes. I have had three guys tell me this toy takes a few sessions to learn how to use, but once you do– the orgasms are unparalleled and second only to partner sex.

I might also suggest warming up up your penis masturbation toys with Warm ($145) and then add some of The Butters Original All Natural Lube & Moisturizer. ($12) You’ll experience an even more sensual and realistic experience.

Finally, the one thing I am most curious to explore in the Peepshow Toys catalog is the Doxy Die Cast Massage Wand. The die-cast casing and the accolated my friends have given this piece mean at some point I will be having sex with it! Plus, every expression I see from the Doxy staff at events or online– they seem like good people. I like supporting good people. ($189.99 at PeepShowToys.com, qualifies for free US shipping)

Full disclosure: I purchased the Njoy Pure Wand with my own money. PeepshowToys.com sent me samples of The Butters Original All Natural Lube & Moisturizer. All links on this post are affiliate links. When you click them and buy, I get a small reward. Thank you for supporting my site.

Valentine’s Day Gift Guide / SheVibe.com

Valentine’s Day Gift Guide / SheVibe.com

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means I have to roll over all my favorite site and see if there are any holiday inspired items I need. (Yes, celebrating holidays is a NEED for me!) Here are the Valentine’s Day items at Shevibe.com that pique my interest […]

Oh I Like This | Dec 2017

Oh I Like This | Dec 2017

__________HOLIDAYS__________ I love any excuse to celebrate! In my house its normal for us to decorate, cook and do it up on holidays. I also made my own wrapping paper this year. I found this cherry ink spray. I just used that along with white butchers paper […]

Sexual Self Care / Hysterectomy WTF?

Sexual Self Care / Hysterectomy WTF?

My surgeon said no sex for six weeks. I made her qualify that by asking, “No penetrative sex, right?” She said, “Yes, nothing in your vagina.” Ok. I can deal with that.

Y’all know sex is an important part of my life. Affection is equally important in my relationship, so I feel like we can deal with both the short term and long term obstacles that are ahead.

I go a little stir crazy with waiting and speculating. To combat this I plan and prepare so I can be ready for the best possible outcome after surgery. I decided to make sure that all my favorite things, and the things that will support my sexual well being, are ready when I am. Here’s what’s in my kit:

I bought this ice pack and some underthings that will help me heal after surgery. I also bought some sexy panties. (Sexy panties rule the world. If you wear them, you also rule the world.)

I have my Warm ready. This is a beautiful sex toy warming system. Designed so thoughtfully, you just open one side, slide your toys in, and they are warmed to a very comfortable level. It’s perfect for those of us who have survived medical trauma in the pelvis (like me), the trauma of sexual assault, or anything that inhibits one’s ability to accept penetration with ease. Warm will make your toys soothing and will turn any toy or massage tool into a more sensual experience.

There are only two toys I have added to the kit. The Sola Cue, as it’s my favorite external toy. I have also added the softer Limon, in case the Cue is too much sensation post-surgery.

I also added my Water Slyde to my self-care kit. You read my full review to understand why it’s such a great self-care tool.

I also added this Inspire Silicone Dilator Set. These penetrative toys have a simple curve that aligns perfectly with the vaginal anatomy. They are smooth, silicone, and easy to clean. They are pliable and not rigid like the other hard plastic or glass dilation sets I have seen.

I tested these toys on my body this week so I can understand the state of my body before surgery and compare it to how well the toys work after surgery. I may also need to use them to expand my ability to receive penetration after surgery. Here’s  a video I made of them last year, long before I knew I would need them myself.

I still need to define which lubes I will stock. With my extensive understanding of personal lubricants, now I need to look at them all with fresh eyes an consider what it is to use a lubricant once I have lost my cervix and natural wetness. I think I’ll do a separate, more comprehensive post on that topic.

 

REVIEW: WATER SLYDE

REVIEW: WATER SLYDE

Curiosity is my superpower. It’s also why I bought the Water Slyde. I was wondering what’s going on in the realm of sex toys and water. I was not looking for sex toys that happen to be waterproof and submersible, I wanted something that made water part of the […]

Finally a Modern Sex Toy Design that Really Delivers

Finally a Modern Sex Toy Design that Really Delivers

Every sex toy should be orgasmic. If a toy costs a lot? I have very high expectations for it. It’s that simple. I even have the formula to determine a sex toy’s orgasm-to-cost ratio. But it shakes out like this, if a toy costs very […]