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I currently work in the tiny industry of pleasure products. In the past, I have worked in the emergency room so when people in the pleasure product industry start taking themselves too seriously I remind myself (and sometimes them) that we sell sex toys. We sell […]
We don’t know each other very well. We’ve shared some kind words online and some valued time together at sexuality conferences. But one day, while I was in the midst of cancer treatment, Lilly sent me a message and asked if I would consider doing a fundraiser for my medical bills. She was willing to spearhead the efforts.
I sat perplexed by the idea. I told her I felt too proud to say yes to her offer. She reminded me that pride will not pay my medical bills, and so I relented. Thank you, Lilly. You are a bright light in the world and I appreciate you. Thanks for caring for me.
Here are some of my favorite posts from her blog:
If you don’t already know her work, I recommend exploring it. She’s loaded with all good intentions, all the time. A rare thing in this world.
(This is part one of a series where I get to say thank you. I have a lot of people to be thankful for.)
Splurging on something luscious and sexy can be a great pick-me-up. Why? When you spend money on some element of our lives it elevates the importance and drives us to be more committed. If your sex life (with yourself or a partner) has been lagging, […]
It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means I have to roll over all my favorite site and see if there are any holiday inspired items I need. (Yes, celebrating holidays is a NEED for me!) Here are the Valentine’s Day items at Shevibe.com that pique my interest […]
I love any excuse to celebrate! In my house its normal for us to decorate, cook and do it up on holidays. I also made my own wrapping paper this year. I found this cherry ink spray. I just used that along with white butchers paper and went to town. I also found this cute guide on Pinterest on How to Draw Snowflakes. So easy!
For the first time ever I got not one but TWO advent calendars. The first one I bought myself. It’s a beautiful pop-up tree advent calendar from the Metropolitan Museum of Art. Each day I get a new little paper bird that attaches to the branches. (A secret… I love birds! I actually have sixteen sets of wings tattooed on my body.)
Then a friend sent me a dark chocolate advent calendar all the way from Europe! This year’s calendar is out of stock now, but each year this luscious chocolate company puts out a new calendar. Now I am totally hung up on advent calendars. I think there should be a little surprise calendar to count down every holiday! Like you could give 24 days love letters for Valentines or 24 days of firecrackers to count down Independence Day! I’m pretty sure this needs to happen.
I have been working on my food intake this month. After surgery, I have been losing weight. It’s fine, I need to lose weight, but I really feel like I am losing muscle more than fat. I can’t workout yet so I am doing what I can with food and intake. I’m exploring food for energy. I want fuel. I found this really simple, yummy slow cooker chicken recipe. I am also been into adding apple bits and hazelnut oil to salads. And my favorite treat right now is Bark Thins. They call it “snacking chocolate.” Who can resist snacking chocolate!?
I have had a lot of time for self-care (despite having a limited physical ability.) These days I am loving Jason Body Wash. It’s so easy on my hyper-allergic skin. I picked up this very affordable Whole Blends Honey shampoo and conditioner. Honestly, I got it because I had a coupon. Turns out it’s really lovely. It smells like some of my favorite honey scented products from L’Occitane! Now I am tempted to try the other scents in the Whole Blends lines.
A friend sent me these really cool face, hand and foot masks from Sephora in a care package. They are so lovely and a great way to spoil yourself. Trouble is it’s been cold here in New York so I popped them into my Warm and made them perfectly comforting. Because they are individually wrapped I did not have to worry about messing up my fancy warming device!
On the sexy side of things, I am tickled to see the AVANT silicone dildos are just starting to hit the market. The color pallets, package designs, and prototypes have been floating around the Blush design department for some time. I am such a dork that I get so excited to see them released, but I do!
They are pretty, single density, platinum cured silicone with bright, horizontal lines of color. Each one (there are six designs in all) are harness compatible, have suction cup bases, and they have loads of G spot and prostate possibilities! I love the colors so much that I wish I had striped socks to match each one of them! You can find them at SheVibe.com.
I have fallen in love with The Butters Original All Natural Lube & Moisturizer. It’s a smooth, creamy moisturizer that can be used for your hands, feet, elbows or knees. It’s also perfect for using your hands on your partner! (Yes– SEX!)
It’s a really lovely body product and super fun to use with your partner. Because it’s oil-based do not use this with your latex safer sex barriers– like condoms, gloves, and dental dams. If you have not been tested with your partner and are no fluid bonded… use it just for solo play. Now I want to try everything they make!
Cancer has forced me to move closer to my fears and accept them. Medical trauma, financial insecurity, death, the impact all of these things have on the people I love… for this reason I am soaking up When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron. If you have heartache, have experienced loss, gone through a divorce– I am sorry to hear that. I highly recommend this book. It will give you new ways to assess the process and cope with the realities of hardship.
A couple good articles I have found lately include No Visible Abuse: Domestic Violence & Traumatic Brain Injury. It’s a great piece that reminds us of the impact trauma and abuse can have on a survivor and how not all trauma one suffers is visible.
What does it feel like to lose your home late in life? This heartbreaking story about how capitalism uproots some of our most vulnerable citizens. It makes me want to find aging individuals in my own community and find ways to care for them. Once I heal I think I’ll do that.
Thanks to Kinkly for including my book in their Kinkly Gift Guide: Our Top Picks for Sex Toy Novices!
More thanks to Elle Chase for including my book on her list of 25 Books Every Sex Nerd Should Read and Reference.
Finally, thank you to my beloved sex bloggers who sent me this super cute get well soon card! I encourage you to get to know these filthy, kind souls!
My surgeon said no sex for six weeks. I made her qualify that by asking, “No penetrative sex, right?” She said, “Yes, nothing in your vagina.” Ok. I can deal with that. Y’all know sex is an important part of my life. Affection is equally important […]
Curiosity is my superpower. It’s also why I bought the Water Slyde. I was wondering what’s going on in the realm of sex toys and water. I was not looking for sex toys that happen to be waterproof and submersible, I wanted something that made water part of the […]
Every sex toy should be orgasmic. If a toy costs a lot? I have very high expectations for it. It’s that simple.
I even have the formula to determine a sex toy’s orgasm-to-cost ratio. But it shakes out like this, if a toy costs very little but brings lots of orgasms (like a classic bullet or a G spotter) then it has a high orgasm-to-dollar ratio.
If it costs more than $20 and is not very orgasmic for most people, it has a low orgasm-to-cost ratio. I don’t want to hear from brands how much the technology, materials or packaging costs. Just get your customers off. If you can not do that as a manufacturer then you have a poor design or a poor business model.
That said, Cue by Sola has a high orgasm to dollar value. In my opinion and with my body, I find it’s worth every penny. And shockingly, it’s the first small, G spot vibe that outperforms my Rechargeable Magic Wand for clitoral play. (You read that right. This toy is a stunner.)
Why is Cue so good?
- Sola has engineered their own motor. Cue vibrations feel nothing like the old familiars. The vibes are deep and rumbly. It has ten functions but frankly, I never get past the third function. It’s so perfect and orgasmic that I stop there.
- Cue is curved to reach your G spot during penetration. The head is a bit larger, and it is slimmer as you move down the shaft. This design is ideal for rocking against the G spot, with or without vibration engaged.
- Just two simple buttons. Hold the (+) button to turn it on. Use the (+) and (-) buttons to move through functions. Hold the (-) button to turn it off.
- It’s completely waterproof and submersible. This means you can run the toy under water to clean it or you can play in the shower or bath.
- It’s made of smooth, platinum cured silicone. Best to use it with a quality waterbased lube.
- It has a simple magnetic charger. It can be charged via USB or with the AC wall adapter, which comes with it. You never need to buy batteries.
- It comes with a simple, lint-free, antibacterial, drawstring bag so it’s easy to store or travel with. has officially replaced my petite and lovely Limon as my favorite travel toy.
- 5 Year Global manufacturer warranty.
Cue has officially replaced my petite and lovely Limon as my favorite travel toy. It has dethroned my Rechargeable Magic Wand as my favorite clitoral toy. It comes in as one of my favorite toys of 2017. (So far!)
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