I currently work in the tiny industry of pleasure products. In the past, I have worked in the emergency room so when people in the pleasure product industry start taking themselves too seriously I remind myself (and sometimes them) that we sell sex toys. We sell […]
It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means I have to roll over all my favorite site and see if there are any holiday inspired items I need. (Yes, celebrating holidays is a NEED for me!) Here are the Valentine’s Day items at Shevibe.com that pique my interest […]
I love any excuse to celebrate! In my house its normal for us to decorate, cook and do it up on holidays. I also made my own wrapping paper this year. I found this cherry ink spray. I just used that along with white butchers paper and went to town. I also found this cute guide on Pinterest on How to Draw Snowflakes. So easy!
For the first time ever I got not one but TWO advent calendars. The first one I bought myself. It’s a beautiful pop-up tree advent calendar from the Metropolitan Museum of Art. Each day I get a new little paper bird that attaches to the branches. (A secret… I love birds! I actually have sixteen sets of wings tattooed on my body.)
Then a friend sent me a dark chocolate advent calendar all the way from Europe! This year’s calendar is out of stock now, but each year this luscious chocolate company puts out a new calendar. Now I am totally hung up on advent calendars. I think there should be a little surprise calendar to count down every holiday! Like you could give 24 days love letters for Valentines or 24 days of firecrackers to count down Independence Day! I’m pretty sure this needs to happen.
I have been working on my food intake this month. After surgery, I have been losing weight. It’s fine, I need to lose weight, but I really feel like I am losing muscle more than fat. I can’t workout yet so I am doing what I can with food and intake. I’m exploring food for energy. I want fuel. I found this really simple, yummy slow cooker chicken recipe. I am also been into adding apple bits and hazelnut oil to salads. And my favorite treat right now is Bark Thins. They call it “snacking chocolate.” Who can resist snacking chocolate!?
I have had a lot of time for self-care (despite having a limited physical ability.) These days I am loving Jason Body Wash. It’s so easy on my hyper-allergic skin. I picked up this very affordable Whole Blends Honey shampoo and conditioner. Honestly, I got it because I had a coupon. Turns out it’s really lovely. It smells like some of my favorite honey scented products from L’Occitane! Now I am tempted to try the other scents in the Whole Blends lines.
A friend sent me these really cool face, hand and foot masks from Sephora in a care package. They are so lovely and a great way to spoil yourself. Trouble is it’s been cold here in New York so I popped them into my Warm and made them perfectly comforting. Because they are individually wrapped I did not have to worry about messing up my fancy warming device!
On the sexy side of things, I am tickled to see the AVANT silicone dildos are just starting to hit the market. The color pallets, package designs, and prototypes have been floating around the Blush design department for some time. I am such a dork that I get so excited to see them released, but I do!
They are pretty, single density, platinum cured silicone with bright, horizontal lines of color. Each one (there are six designs in all) are harness compatible, have suction cup bases, and they have loads of G spot and prostate possibilities! I love the colors so much that I wish I had striped socks to match each one of them! You can find them at SheVibe.com.
I have fallen in love with The Butters Original All Natural Lube & Moisturizer. It’s a smooth, creamy moisturizer that can be used for your hands, feet, elbows or knees. It’s also perfect for using your hands on your partner! (Yes– SEX!)
It’s a really lovely body product and super fun to use with your partner. Because it’s oil-based do not use this with your latex safer sex barriers– like condoms, gloves, and dental dams. If you have not been tested with your partner and are no fluid bonded… use it just for solo play. Now I want to try everything they make!
Cancer has forced me to move closer to my fears and accept them. Medical trauma, financial insecurity, death, the impact all of these things have on the people I love… for this reason I am soaking up When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron. If you have heartache, have experienced loss, gone through a divorce– I am sorry to hear that. I highly recommend this book. It will give you new ways to assess the process and cope with the realities of hardship.
A couple good articles I have found lately include No Visible Abuse: Domestic Violence & Traumatic Brain Injury. It’s a great piece that reminds us of the impact trauma and abuse can have on a survivor and how not all trauma one suffers is visible.
What does it feel like to lose your home late in life? This heartbreaking story about how capitalism uproots some of our most vulnerable citizens. It makes me want to find aging individuals in my own community and find ways to care for them. Once I heal I think I’ll do that.
Thanks to Kinkly for including my book in their Kinkly Gift Guide: Our Top Picks for Sex Toy Novices!
More thanks to Elle Chase for including my book on her list of 25 Books Every Sex Nerd Should Read and Reference.
Finally, thank you to my beloved sex bloggers who sent me this super cute get well soon card! I encourage you to get to know these filthy, kind souls!
Curiosity is my superpower. It’s also why I bought the Water Slyde. I was wondering what’s going on in the realm of sex toys and water. I was not looking for sex toys that happen to be waterproof and submersible, I wanted something that made water part of the […]
Every sex toy should be orgasmic. If a toy costs a lot? I have very high expectations for it. It’s that simple. I even have the formula to determine a sex toy’s orgasm-to-cost ratio. But it shakes out like this, if a toy costs very […]
Conferences of any kind can be bombastic, with long days and loads of strangers. So honestly I wasn’t sure what to expect when I arrived to the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. I knew there would be speakers. I knew there would be audiences full of sex educators, bloggers, social workers, and social justice advocates. That was all I really knew!
What I did not expect was the warmth of this collection of people, from the organizers to the presenters, to the participants. This summit was the most enjoyable sex education/sexuality conferences I have ever attended. Here are some of the highlights:
(1) There were incredibly thoughtful presentations that covered pleasure, family matters, and social issues. I gave my presentation on the Sexual Wellness of Foster Youth. There was not a massive crowd for my talk, but the people who did show up were full of heart and a willingness to learn, listen and consider how they can better impact vulnerable youth in their communities. I am grateful to them.
(2) The hotel was very nice. The bed was comfy. The hotel manager was very supportive of the event. The view from my room on the 12th floor was amazing! I could see the local neighborhood, the Pentagon, and Arlington National Cemetery.(3) Red Emma’s Bookstore was the book vendor. They brought my book, and a lot of other great titles! (Thank you!)
(4) There were some very cool companies who choose to sponsor the summit, including one of the companies I work for– Sola! Great brands like Doxy, Njoy, and Tantus were also in attendance. Baltimore’s own Sugar (sex toy shop) was there to sell toys to the masses.
(5) Sola also sponsored the blogger lounge on Saturday. The blogger lounge is just a quiet space where writers could recharge, have conversations, eat snacks, and cool out. Sola brought fruit, donut holes, art supplies and super sexy, adult coloring books from SheVibe.com! Graphic art ensued!
In the end, I found myself surrounded by intelligent minds, like minds, and lots of people who gave me fresh perspectives. I purchased a couple cool items from Funkit Toys. I was also invited to both a spanking party and a fisting party. My absolute shyness made it impossible for me to attend but I LOVE being invited!
My shyness around group displays of sexuality exists because I am a survivor if rough stuff, these things never feel safe to me. But I appreciate that others love playing! And regardless, I still enjoyed hearing the laughs and slaps of the spanking party that just happened to be happening a few doors down from my hotel room!
Thank you again to the Sexual Freedom Summit organizers, to everyone who came to my presentation, and each of you who spent time with me. So much joy was had!
The 2018 dates have already been announced. If you are considering going next year, I highly recommend it.